Mothering the Mother Wound

Art by Dominique Fortin

Art by Dominique Fortin

Today I want to share Bethany Webster's article called "The Rupture of the Mother Line and the Cost of Becoming Real." Here's a part of it  below.

"One of the hardest experiences a daughter can have in a mother/daughter relationship is seeing that your mother is unconsciously invested in your smallness. For women in this predicament, it’s truly heart-wrenching to see that, out of her own wounding, the person who gave birth to you unconsciously sees your empowerment as her own loss. Ultimately, it’s not personal but a very real tragedy of our patriarchal culture that tells women they are “less than.”

When I read it I was amazed because it spoke deeply to me about my own journey. For a long time I felt so alone. For about 18 years I have travelled a path learning to heal in this way. It is wonderful to see another woman put it into writing.

You can read the whole of Bethany's article here http://womboflight.com/2014/12/21/the-rupture-of-the-mother-line-and-the-cost-of-becoming-real/ It may not speak to your journey but it certainly did for me.

Art by Kinuko Y Craft.

Art by Kinuko Y Craft.

Another aware  young woman is Lily Myers. Her passionate poem touches me deeply.

I love her analogy of women shrinking themselves to make space for men. Part of my 'coming out' is being brave to occupy my space and to not feel afraid.

                                                                     Art by Stephanie Ledoux

                                                                     Art by Stephanie Ledoux

Celebrating

I'm so proud of this painting. I painted it to submit for publication in Alena Hennessy's new book coming out in 2016. Whether or not it will be published, it was brave for me to submit.

I am coming out and I identify as an artist now.

I realise that my art is a gift. It's not showing off. It's not asking for acceptance.

And I needn't hide in shame.